How can you start feeling more positive when you’re faced with the same old every single day and the Universe seems to trip you up at every corner?
When your neighbours annoy you by constantly slamming their front door, their dog barks non-stop or when those selfish party people keep you up all night determined to ruin your Sunday lay-in?
How many of us often open our eyes in the morning, after hitting the snooze button and think: “Oh s***! Another day!” or something along those lines? Well, join the club!
The traps of negativity
I’m certainly not immune to the traps of negativity. Every now and then I too open my eyes in the morning and manage to find something that really gets my goat.
The difference now is in how I choose my approach.
It took a while for me to recognise this bad habit, just like it was hard to recognise and catch every negative thought that would take shape during my day.
Louise Hay always used to say:
“It’s only a thought and a thought can be changed”
Don’t let the word “only” pull you away from the deeper meaning of this phrase. The “only” simply illustrates that when a negative thought takes shape in our mind it can also be dissolved.
Equally, thoughts have incredible power. Think of all the negative ones we think of every minute of the day:
from expecting our train to be late on our way to work to looking at ourselves in the mirror and picking on every tiny thing that we don’t like about ourselves.
Negative thoughts have spread their roots in our minds for so long that often we don’t even take notice of them anymore.
With practice, anyone can change their negative thinking. The best way is to catch the moment when we’re feeding ourselves that negative talk and turn it into a positive. And by the way, whether we think it or say it we’re still giving it the same power.
Everything we think and say shapes our lives. Most of the time we are not even aware of what we’re thinking and since “like attracts like” we’re much more likely to have a nicer day if we start by noticing the great things that surround us.
Dissolving the habit of negativity is all in the practice. You first plant the seed and nurture that seed until it grows. Eventually it will flower.
Every thought creates a feeling: it’s that feeling that keeps you in a certain vibration which attracts more of the same.
So, what do we get out of constantly complaining and being negative other than making that our truth?
Honestly, how many times have things improved by thinking negative thoughts?
If this questions made you ponder chances are you’re on the verge of a breakthrough. There are steps you can take to reframe your thought patterns.
1 – Lay some foundations
I like to support my day by surrounding myself with small little “helpers”: thoughts, affirmations, habits, pictures and as of recently, Oracle cards. These resources are just like mini friends that constantly nudge me and remind me that being grateful is the best state of vibration. When you’re grateful you’re already floating in a good energy and you’re in fact already abundant. This vibration can only attract more of the same.
My day starts off by saying to myself:” Today is a great day” or something like “Universe, I can’t wait to see what you’re sending my way today” even though I might have only had 2 hours sleep. I try not to let that impact the new day I’ve been given.
2 – Support Yourself
While having my morning coffee in my studio I pick a positive message from my Desktop Art Prints which I display by my healing crystals.
I make my choice based on how I feel that day and on what part of my life I feel might need a bit more encouragement.
Shortly after, I reach for my I Can Do It calendar and find out what my affirmation for the day is.
There’s something incredibly soothing about glancing at an affirmation which sits on my desk all day every day.
Not only I can make that affirmation mine and apply it to my life but if I need emotional support it can also become a lovely ‘pick me up’.
When I sit at my desk I enjoy discovering what’s in store for that day, I take a few seconds to look at the picture and then take in the affirmation.
3 – Colour your walls with gratitude
My next step is to take 5 to 10 minutes to write on my Gratitude Journal.
This has become a daily appointment which I look forward to. Like most people I found it hard at the beginning. Trying to find things, events, people I was grateful for every day felt weird and almost impossible. We tend to take for granted what we already have without realising that it’s precisely what we already have, as well as the people in our life, that got us to where we are now.
4 – Furnish your space with signs
I then pick a deck out of my Oracle cards collection and draw a card for the day.
I first reach out for Divine Directions by Jade-Sky, a lovely little deck of mini cards with direct, concise and inspirational messages that help to find the answers you might need and guide you past any obstacles you might be encountering at that moment in your life.
Another favourite is the “I Am Power Deck“: the colours alone would be enough to brighten up your day, even the most dull and grey one.
Each card has an I am statement that really hits the spot!
A one-card Oracle reading is always great for immediate answers so I choose a deck precisely for that purpose and out of my current assortment these are some of the best ones:
- Butterfly Oracle Cards for Life Changes by Doreen Virtue
- The Soul’s Journey Lesson Cards by James Van Praagh
- Trust your Vibes by Sonia Choquette
- The Secret Language of Colours by Inna Segal.
- Daily Guidance from your Angels by Doreen Virtue
5 – Enjoy your space and meditate
Let’s debunk a myth: there’s no need to sit in meditation for 2 hours to reap the benefits from this ancient practice. I’ve always imagined myself incapable of sitting quietly in a spot let alone even allowing the idea of stopping all my thoughts from coming and going.
In my experience, it’s just a matter of finding the right type of meditation. After trying out several options I discovered that guided meditations with visualisation is what suits me best. This is because I am a very visual person. It helps me to feel present in the moment.
Contrary to what most people believe, meditation isn’t just sitting crossed legs chanting mantras until you’re blue in the face. There are various ways of meditating including active meditation which you can enjoy while having a walk in nature for instance.
Start off easy, without putting any pressure on yourself or having expectations.
Sit quietly undisturbed for 5 minutes, maybe listening to what is going on around you. Follow the rhythm of your breath while you’re naturally taking the air in and gently pushing it out.
Yes, you will have thoughts coming by from time to time.
I usually find myself thinking of what to take out of my freezer for dinner or mentally listing things I need to do for the day.
Don’t shut the door to these thoughts and get frustrated because all your efforts to meditate have gone to pots.
When a thought comes in uninvited just recognise it for what it is and then let it go. Then go back to your meditation.
Having a meditation practice will:
- keep you grounded and help you to let go of what no longer serves you
- re-charge your batteries and keep you in touch with your true self
- clear your mind and improve your mood.
A great resource in our modern day-to-day life, as we’re surrounded by all sort of stressful experiences.
Even one small change every day can make a big difference. So try something different and see what happens.
It’s useful to remember what Dr. Wayne Dyer used to affirm:
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change”